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Post 1 October 15, 2014

What do I like best about my father? 

When I use the word father, I don’t refer to my biological father. That man to me has just not been what a father should/could/would want to be to a daughter. The man in this picture is much more than a stepdad to me. This has been my father since I was eleven years old when he and my mother got married. Since then and even before that, he’s always treated me with respect, been kind and considerate of me, and looked out for my best interests. Jerry Jones, he has supported me emotionally, physically, and financially since my mother has married him. I couldn’t have picked a better father if I was able to choose myself. This picture was at my stepbrother and sister-in-law’s wedding. It was a father daughter dance and to my surprise he pulled me out on the floor. I am a very emotional person, and this specific moment brought tears of joy to my eyes. My heart was overjoyed and cheeks hurt from smiling so much. At this moment I knew Jerry was the dad I’d always prayed for. 

But, what I like best about Jerry is that even when I screw up-believe me I have-he has never lost his temper with me, he always points out that his anger/disappointment comes from the tremendous amount of love he has for me. That is one of the things I like best about my dad, Jerry Jones. 

Blog Post 4

Kaitlyn Hawkins

COMM 101C

Blog Post 4- 12/9/13

Self Introduction:

This course has taught me the most I have learned so far as a Communication Major. The theories I have learned have helped me also learn so much about myself and about the relationships I have and have had in my life. Throughout my time in this class I have been able to come to better understand other people and their stories they carry with them which are a part of what makes them who they are. I have discovered that when someone is coming on too strongly to me or I feel uncomfortable it is usually because they are disclosing too much about themselves for a first time of meeting, I also have noticed myself doing that sometimes and I have to remember that not everyone is worthy of my deepest layers of my onion. I have learned through the first few chapters that much of who I am has been created through the different people I have come into contact with, different situations I’ve been in, and experiences I have had. The definition of communication in the book has stuck with me ever since we read it, communication is; the relational process of creating and interpreting messages that elicit a response. I learned about this last semester in my COMM 10 class, but this semester I learned the application of it and I have a much better understanding of communication.

Mapping:

            At the beginning of this semester I placed myself in the middle of interpretivist and objectivist because I wasn’t sure which style I was more like. After learning about the different theories and just watching myself develop as a communication scholar I have realized I am much more on the objectivist side of things. I have seen myself looking more for the black/white in situations. While I do like being a part of the meaning-making I am more likely to put myself/opinions aside and just look at things from an outsider’s perspective. However, I don’t think I am fully on the objectivist side of things, but more of an Objectivist-Interpretivist. I think that I’ve moved more towards this because I do like to see one truth in things, and empirical evidence, something that’s true no matter who’s looking at it. I also find it interesting to see think critically and look at who holds more power in different types of relationships or social settings.

Experiences:

            Some experiences I had this semester, which really influenced my interest in communications were, one, which is this class. Learning about all of the different theories and things that go into communicating was really enlightening and interesting. Learning about relational dialectics and social penetration are things that are very prominent in every day life so I liked learning about those theories. Something else that I really worked on was using my newly acquired knowledge of communicating in my work place and sorority, doing this helped me strengthen my relationships with so many people. Being able to explain theories to people after having learned about them also really helped me out in being able to really grasp the concepts of them. Watching movies I was able to notice the things we’ve learned about such as two women in a movie talking is usually not very long and only about a guy.

A specific example of when I used symbolic interactionism theory was with my roommate who I was having a lot of problems with this semester. I had to take a step back and look at my actions and words and I was using the looking glass self and seeing how I was making her feel. I realized after careful thought and calm conversations with her that I had been overreacting to the situation at hand. She also was able to see how she was acting was disrespectful towards me as well. Having done this and talk about things we came to an understanding and now are closer than ever.

            I went through many personal changes this semester, balancing school, work, sorority, and a boyfriend, oh and of course a social life. Within all of these things there has to be communication so that I can relay information to each about what I need and what needs to be done. As I said earlier I learned just how important communication is and that without it there is no relationship and that always ends poorly. I had to tell my boyfriend that of course school, work, and my sorority demands have to come first. I had to communicate to work that even though they made need me at busy times of the week, I just can’t because of class or sorority commitments I’ve made. These were only a few of the experiences that lead me into more of a love for this major! I actually used a few of the theories we learned about in other papers for two other communication classes I am taking.

“As a communication scholar I am…   “

I don’t know that I would really revise what I said about myself as a communication scholar. I said in my first blog post that I am interested in relationships and how they work, which I still very much am. Now I just have a broader knowledge of the different pieces of relationships I didn’t know about at first. Things like relationships are always in a state of flux, different levels of penetration, and deterioration of relationships. Learning more about how communication works helped me gain closure on some relationships that fell apart to the point of no repair.

Theory Application:

            Something that the Apparatus Media Ecology theory, which actually came in handy to me during this semester with my online course, COMM 131 New You/New Media, I had learned a great deal of the history behind media and how the medium is the message and that is what this theory was talking about. This theory explained that the in-between communication of people is the medium and that is what is being communicated. I was able to use this theory a little bit in my Media Exploration paper I wrote for 131. I talked about how the new technologies we have shape social structures as a form of thought. We were talking about Facebook and how people can create identities online that are either different from themselves or true to the T and how with new technology we have this power right at our very own fingertips. We don’t have to reply much on word of mouth or reading books because everything is online and readily available. We even read an article in that course about the end of books and how soon every book will be available online and the struggle to keep paper books in libraries gets harder and harder with all the world wide websites out there. That article reminded me immediately of this theory and how at first it was an oral age, then literacy age, moved onto the print age and now we’ve come to electronic age, and as far as the digital age.

            I look forward to continuing my studies as a communication scholar. This class was such a good course to strengthen my foundation in communication. Not to mention, I have acquired new skills that will help me land a job in the future due to the mock interview we had in class. While at first it was a bit never racking I enjoyed the opportunity to do this, especially in front of an entire class, helping me prepare for possible group interviews I will be in. I can see myself potentially continuing my studies past a Bachelors degree onto a Masters and maybe even becoming a college Professor to teach students about communication. As I said earlier this class made my love for the study grow even more and helped me reign in the things I’ve learned in previous classes and putting them with theories that will help me throughout my whole life. 

BLOG POST 3

Kaitlyn Hawkins

11-20-13

COMM 101C M/W 9-10:15AM

Blog Post 3: Interview of a professional career I’m interested in

Working in the restaurant industry for almost 4 years now has helped me develop and strengthen many of my communication skills. It has given me the opportunity to also become a certified in store trainer for the new employees hired. I enjoy this job because I enjoy people and talking with all different kinds of people. I also get the opportunity to work with dozens of different people who all come from different backgrounds and cultures. Not one of us is the same, however we do seem to all get along, most of the time. I have been with the same restaurant company, Famous Dave’s BBQ since I got the job in Tracy, CA during my senior year of high school. For this blog post I decided to interview my manager on what types of communication problems they face during their time of being a manager.

I asked my general manager Cheryl about how poor communication between her and her employees affects the job that has to be done. She said that one thing that’s very hard is trying to accommodate everyone’s different availability and days off they have requested. She said, “Of course I want to give people time off to do things they want or need to do, but sometimes it is hard due to specific restrictions of other people’s availability or people calling in sick.” Cheryl said that without communication nothing gets done that needs to be done. Cheryl said that one of her biggest issues is when people switch shifts with each other and do not call in to tell a manager or write it down in the shift exchange book. That is a lack of communication that is very upsetting and frustrating to her. Of course it doesn’t just end with her employees, communication between the other managers and her is also very important. She has to have weekly meetings with them to make sure they are making their orders for their particular sections of the restaurants correctly, making schedules correctly, giving everyone enough/equal hours. Without communication between them it makes her job even harder. She told me when she gives them a task, it is all about the follow up and making sure they are on track and where they need to be.

There are also different communication problems with guests that if a server/host/or any other employee is unable to fix on their own that she has to step in.  She said, “There are so many times when a guest orders something that after they try it they really hate it and demand something else, or even demand it to be taken off their tab and I have to go over and smooth over the situation.” She also said, “When food is taking a long time or the wait to get a table is long many people get upset and ask for free appetizers or discounts on their food. It is my job to make the guest happy though, so I do my best to accommodate their wishes.” I asked her if she feels that she has a lot of power over her employees. Cheryl said, “I never feel that I am higher than anyone of my employees, we are all equal, we just have different responsibilities to take care of.”

A theory I think that relates with this line of work and one that I believe would help a restaurant manager in times when communication is low is Constructivism. It is important for our manager Cheryl to convey to us that our job as a whole has one main goal, making the guest happy. She always says, “It starts with you!” What she means is, we are the ones interacting with the guests and starting up conversations and catering to their needs. When something goes wrong we need to sympathize with our guest and put ourselves in their shoes, which is easy because everybody goes out to eat! SO, the primary goal is making the guest happy, we do this by having a friendly and approachable attitude, getting their food out on time, and cooked to perfection of course. In the end this makes for more returning guests and them bringing their friends and family back. I heard somewhere that a guest who has a bad experience is more likely to talk about that bad experience to others rather than if they had a good experience. The less bad experiences had at our restaurant the more good ones are being had and they keep coming back for more! I agree with my manager when she says, “It all starts with YOU!”

BLOG POST 2: COMM 101C

Kaitlyn Hawkins

10/15/13

Comm 101C M/W 9-10:15

Blog Post 2

 

Interviewing Patrick Kramer

I got together with Patrick Kramer who’s in the Communication Studies grad student program here at San Jose State. He’s currently a teaching assistant, but has course sections of COMM 20 that he teaches alone. I asked him a handful of questions about his career path and why he chose it. The questions I asked were:

1. What made you decide to become a COMM teacher here at SJSU?

 I was interested in the Comm Graduate Program, and decided to apply. As part of that program, there is a program for graduate students to teach a section of Comm 20 as as part of their graduate work. I applied for that program and got accepted. 

2. Do you see yourself doing this in the far future?

 I do. I love what I do and especially love how I can fit it in with the rest of my schedule as I see fit. I really like empowering students to become better public speakers.

3. What was it that drew you to the communications department?

 I liked how I could study music in a scholarly setting. Instead of being completely alienated from the subject I am studying, I get to study something I am already passionate about from a scholarly perspective. 

4. What part of communication studies do you like the best?

 I like being able to study what I am passionate about in a scholarly setting. I like being able to take established concepts and ideas and relate them to what is going on in the world around me.

5. What does being a college professor mean to you?

 I am not a professor, but rather a teaching associate. To me, it means being able to have the opportunity to teach a class by myself and develop my teaching skills. I am the sole teacher in the classroom, but I have a large community of esteemed instructors helping me on a week-to week basis.

6. Is there a communication theory you really like? Why?

I like Dwight Conquergood’s performance studies theories. Lately, that is what I have been focusing on. I like it because it does not just apply to performance, but many aspects of performance of self.

Just as Patrick said he enjoys communication studies because it can be applied in real world situations, many of the theories we’ve been studying this semester can be as well. I think that his career can be described in the sense of Cultural Approach to Organizations theory, which involves personal, corporate, and collegial stories. Within Patrick’s class he has his own story for being there, just as all of the students in his class have stories as to why they are sitting in that class, whether it is because they are COMM majors and want to take a COMM 20 class to cover that GE or maybe it was the only class they could get so they are stuck in it. Either way they are there, together creating another story. This class could easily be identified as a communication class because of the cultural performance that occurs of writing and performing different styles of speeches.  

            They create their own organization, culture. They follow rituals in the class. It is a web of communication due to the number of students in his class. Although him being the instructor does give him power, which is also due to the relationship created by he and his students, but that’s a look at a whole other theory, the Critical Theory of Communication in Organizations.

 

This is love, she thought, isn’t it? When you notice someone’s absence and hate that absence more than anything? More, even, than you love his presence?
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Kaitlyn Hawkins

09/13/13

COMM101C Junior Seminar

Fall 2013

Section 2

Relationship

INTRODUCTION

I am a third year college student who is involved in Delta Gamma Sorority on campus, I also work as a server at Famous Dave’s Restaurants. I run into ALL kinds of people and must use my communication skills every single day. I chose this image to represent my sisterhood here on campus at San Jose State.

 

EXPERIENCES:

My attraction to communication studies has its roots in elementary school when I used to have to speak in front of my classes for short presentations. But, understand, I’ve always been comfortable with performing in public because I grew up as a dancer. My love of public speaking really sparked when I wrote an award-winning essay in the fifth grade for the D.A.R.E. program. I was awarded a $100.00 certificate, a medal, and the opportunity to present it to a gym full of students and teachers and family and friends. My skills continued to improve when I took speech classes in middle school and in high school. I also did the morning announcements daily, my senior year of high school.

PROVISIONAL DEFINITION:

I see communication as many things, verbal, nonverbal, symbolic, relational, etc. I believe that it is about one person sending a message to make another person or persons give a response.

SCHOLAR STATEMENT

As a communication scholar I am primarily interested in communication in relationships and how they work. I am interested in this because I find it really fascinating the different ways we communicate with each other even without words. Studying this helps me relate it to real life situations of my own. I’ve been through a good amount of friendships in my life and some have lasted, some died out just as quickly as they started, and some I will never know what lead to the deterioration of the friendship. Relationships are communication. Now that I live in a house of 55 women I have learned so much about how important communication is in relationships with people. Nonverbal communication is another interest of mine because living here I’ve noticed the amount of passive aggressiveness that occurs which tends to lead to outbursts between my sorority sisters.

KEY QUESTIONS

When two people first meet, how does a person make the decision to go up and speak with the other?

When a relationship is in the deterioration process are things better left unsaid, or is it better to talk it out until there’s nothing left to say?

When a problem between people is left unsolved and the two continue to go on as if nothing is wrong and tensions continue to build is the relationship still in deterioration or is it in an in between stage?

 

MAPPING

I think my spot on the Communications Major map is a little bit of both, interpretivist and objectivist. On one hand I prefer to have an answer that is right or wrong, which is the scientific side but the on the other hand I like to look at intentions of people. Again on the scientific side of things I like to be a detached observer but still find myself sometimes being an integrated meaning-maker.

CLOSING

I am really looking forward to being able to learn more about the theories of communication and help apply them in real life situations. I know that my studies here at San Jose state will help me in all aspects of my life especially within my college years and my sorority here on campus.

 

 

 

 

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