Blog Post 4- 12/9/13
This course has taught me the most I have learned so far as a Communication Major. The theories I have learned have helped me also learn so much about myself and about the relationships I have and have had in my life. Throughout my time in this class I have been able to come to better understand other people and their stories they carry with them which are a part of what makes them who they are. I have discovered that when someone is coming on too strongly to me or I feel uncomfortable it is usually because they are disclosing too much about themselves for a first time of meeting, I also have noticed myself doing that sometimes and I have to remember that not everyone is worthy of my deepest layers of my onion. I have learned through the first few chapters that much of who I am has been created through the different people I have come into contact with, different situations I’ve been in, and experiences I have had. The definition of communication in the book has stuck with me ever since we read it, communication is; the relational process of creating and interpreting messages that elicit a response. I learned about this last semester in my COMM 10 class, but this semester I learned the application of it and I have a much better understanding of communication.
At the beginning of this semester I placed myself in the middle of interpretivist and objectivist because I wasn’t sure which style I was more like. After learning about the different theories and just watching myself develop as a communication scholar I have realized I am much more on the objectivist side of things. I have seen myself looking more for the black/white in situations. While I do like being a part of the meaning-making I am more likely to put myself/opinions aside and just look at things from an outsider’s perspective. However, I don’t think I am fully on the objectivist side of things, but more of an Objectivist-Interpretivist. I think that I’ve moved more towards this because I do like to see one truth in things, and empirical evidence, something that’s true no matter who’s looking at it. I also find it interesting to see think critically and look at who holds more power in different types of relationships or social settings.
Some experiences I had this semester, which really influenced my interest in communications were, one, which is this class. Learning about all of the different theories and things that go into communicating was really enlightening and interesting. Learning about relational dialectics and social penetration are things that are very prominent in every day life so I liked learning about those theories. Something else that I really worked on was using my newly acquired knowledge of communicating in my work place and sorority, doing this helped me strengthen my relationships with so many people. Being able to explain theories to people after having learned about them also really helped me out in being able to really grasp the concepts of them. Watching movies I was able to notice the things we’ve learned about such as two women in a movie talking is usually not very long and only about a guy.
A specific example of when I used symbolic interactionism theory was with my roommate who I was having a lot of problems with this semester. I had to take a step back and look at my actions and words and I was using the looking glass self and seeing how I was making her feel. I realized after careful thought and calm conversations with her that I had been overreacting to the situation at hand. She also was able to see how she was acting was disrespectful towards me as well. Having done this and talk about things we came to an understanding and now are closer than ever.
I went through many personal changes this semester, balancing school, work, sorority, and a boyfriend, oh and of course a social life. Within all of these things there has to be communication so that I can relay information to each about what I need and what needs to be done. As I said earlier I learned just how important communication is and that without it there is no relationship and that always ends poorly. I had to tell my boyfriend that of course school, work, and my sorority demands have to come first. I had to communicate to work that even though they made need me at busy times of the week, I just can’t because of class or sorority commitments I’ve made. These were only a few of the experiences that lead me into more of a love for this major! I actually used a few of the theories we learned about in other papers for two other communication classes I am taking.
“As a communication scholar I am… “
I don’t know that I would really revise what I said about myself as a communication scholar. I said in my first blog post that I am interested in relationships and how they work, which I still very much am. Now I just have a broader knowledge of the different pieces of relationships I didn’t know about at first. Things like relationships are always in a state of flux, different levels of penetration, and deterioration of relationships. Learning more about how communication works helped me gain closure on some relationships that fell apart to the point of no repair.
Something that the Apparatus Media Ecology theory, which actually came in handy to me during this semester with my online course, COMM 131 New You/New Media, I had learned a great deal of the history behind media and how the medium is the message and that is what this theory was talking about. This theory explained that the in-between communication of people is the medium and that is what is being communicated. I was able to use this theory a little bit in my Media Exploration paper I wrote for 131. I talked about how the new technologies we have shape social structures as a form of thought. We were talking about Facebook and how people can create identities online that are either different from themselves or true to the T and how with new technology we have this power right at our very own fingertips. We don’t have to reply much on word of mouth or reading books because everything is online and readily available. We even read an article in that course about the end of books and how soon every book will be available online and the struggle to keep paper books in libraries gets harder and harder with all the world wide websites out there. That article reminded me immediately of this theory and how at first it was an oral age, then literacy age, moved onto the print age and now we’ve come to electronic age, and as far as the digital age.
I look forward to continuing my studies as a communication scholar. This class was such a good course to strengthen my foundation in communication. Not to mention, I have acquired new skills that will help me land a job in the future due to the mock interview we had in class. While at first it was a bit never racking I enjoyed the opportunity to do this, especially in front of an entire class, helping me prepare for possible group interviews I will be in. I can see myself potentially continuing my studies past a Bachelors degree onto a Masters and maybe even becoming a college Professor to teach students about communication. As I said earlier this class made my love for the study grow even more and helped me reign in the things I’ve learned in previous classes and putting them with theories that will help me throughout my whole life.